You Loved and Lost? So What?

If you found that one, this post is not for you, and congratulations you made it! For the rest of us though it's a jungle out there!

What I find interesting and hypocritical at the same time is that you hear people around you say that everyone else sucks, the opposite gender sucks and no one cares about relationships, yet everyone has the same problem. So let me get this straight, no one gives a shit, but everyone has a problem with it. There is only one logical conclusion, everyone cares. The only people who don't care will show it to you one way or another. If we are capable of actually recognizing it ourselves. I know it's all good in theory. I've been there, I'm not that ignorant of the situation.

Here is the cold hard truth, we will get screwed over. I am not the first one who loved and lost, you are not the first one who loved and lost, everyone did at some point. If you didn't then you are in for a treat when it happens so here is what to expect when it does hit you.

The cliché part:

1. All the songs are made for our "situation" although before we didn't even give a shit about those songs
2. We can't stop wondering why the hell this happened
3. We constantly think what we can say/do to get back together
4. We hate them, but love them at the same time
5. We notice them Online and we are praying they send us a message
6. They look so happy single, we hate them even more, but you want them to be happy (happy with us)
7. We pray they miss us and come back
8. We see them somewhere and we feel like our heart is going to give up right then and there
9. Avoid contact at any time, yet text them because they didn't
10. Hate on them to friends, but we have a problem when they hate on them

You can see where I'm going with this. You can probably relate to some, if not all, and so can I. Why we feel that way? The dreadful word "ego" comes to mind. No, actually love has little to do with it. We can't possibly imagine what we did wrong and that sucks so bad. Someone said to us "You are not good enough and fuck you, I am better alone". Who the hell wants to be alone? No one, that's why after a few weeks you notice they moved on. Still hurts doesn't it; Even if we don't think of them as often. That is because we are losing this, we've been screwed over, here we are alone, and they seem so happy. It's all part of the "process". We can cry, get angry, like those two helped before. It is only natural and even if we don't believe we can find someone else ever again, we will eventually. Funny the way it is.

We need answers. Is love something we can control? We Loved and Lost. So What? What then? Become desperately pessimistic? Trust no one ever again? Test them until they prove they are worth it? Become the asshole or the slut because "no one cares"? What would you do.

Part 2:"Emotions and Logic: The Eternal War"